I always wonder how it is so easy for people to get into relationships. Since my childhood I have seen many of my friends being okay with having multiple relationships. I am very old school and I always believe in one life for one person. To my utter surprise I have recently discovered a dating app. “It is generally not for serious relationships but for hookups ya..” Tania, one of my childhood besties said to me when she visited me at my brother’s wedding. It was late in the night. We had just finished the haldi ceremony and we were sleeping together in my room. She got a notification on her mobile about a match. “What is this Tania? Why are you swiping left and right? Is this any new social media platform?” I asked. Tania said “Arey this is a different kind of social media. You can get a match here and can just have..”
“Can just have what?” I exclaimed loudly.
“Why are you shouting yaar?” Tania said in a low tone as if she is trying to tell me a secret.
“Tania..Yaar I never thought you’re like this!” I said
“Dude! You’re old school. Not me! Chill, this is all normal these days!” She said
Maybe it was normal for this world but for the way I looked at this world I must say it is a completely different world I live in. I listen to Kishore Kumar songs. I like retro music, Sufi songs. I love to wear saree. I am totally out of date for this millennium. I then wondered how it feels to be in a relationship. I wanted to love someone. I wanted to find my soulmate. All of a sudden a thought striked my mind. What if my soulmate is trying to find me on this dating site? After my brother’s wedding, this doubt was haunting me for a while. One fine day I decided to install a dating app. I would just look at its features and promised myself to uninstall in two to three days. I installed it and signed in with a fake id. After an hour of installation, my dm flooded with messages. Guys from my locality were constantly trying to reach out to me. There were naughty, vulgar, polite and funny texts from their end. This gave me anxiety. I wondered how people are hopeless about love. They are in a constant chase of lust and they don’t care if the other person loves them or not. What they care about is immediate pleasure. I thought of using the app for a while but when these materialistic texts gave me anxiety I uninstalled the app and came back to my world of books. I could now read all my novels peacefully.
Dating Apps are very well know in Western countries. But not sure if it really works in India. It did not work for me. It is really difficult to judge someone in person, and it makes more difficult when you find someone online.